How can I get my sister to fight for her marriage while husband is having mid-life crisis and wants a divorce?My sister and her husband just bought a house on land contract about 3 wks ago. Last week, he told her he wanted a divorce and she didn't have to get out right now, but he wanted her to leave. He said he still loves her, but he thinks she doesn't love him and he thinks she thinks he is worhtless. She still loves him and never has felt that way and tried to get him to understand that. He won't believe her, said the damage has already been done and that he is through. He has a woman he is talking to that he says is just a shoulder to cry on. My sister has decided that if he doesn't want her, then she is just going to give up and let the other lady have him. He won't do marriage counseling. She thinks all hope is gone and won't fight. They have been married for almost 5 yrs., and been through alot of stress the last 2 years because her daughter was diagnosed with chronic end stage renal (kidney) failure and had a transplant a few months ago. Also, the adult children won't leave the nest.
Posted by Andrea R
You won't be able to "make" her fight. If she doesn't want to go through all the counseling and everything its just not going to work. And I think that maybe she knows that he is maybe in love with the other woman and maybe she just doesn't want to stay with him because of that. You are going to have to let her make her own choices here, its hard to do that.
Posted by baseballdad69
Take the daughter, make the husband pay child support and all medicals bills and get out. There are better men out there than this. I am presuming the adult kids are his. If not she will not get him to change his mind because he won't support HER adult kids. I wouldn't. But if his are still there then it is not her but him. He feels like he made a mistake and doesn't want her around but is just saying and blaming her.
GET HER OUT!!!
Posted by Maggie
This isn't your battle, nor is it your decision. If you want him so bad, YOU fight for him.
Posted by captjimfields
you can't. no mater what you say, it wont work she has to decide what to do, all you can do is give her moral support. the sick child is all she can handle besides, if he's talking to another woman, then he's done it before or he will continue to do it. let the sister know you will support her anyway you can, but she has to stand and what she thinks is right or wrong.
Posted by michelle
your sister may be right there is another woman in the picture and she isn't a just a shoulder to cry on she the home wrecker and that's why hes making excuses and trying to throw blame where there should be none if hes not willing to commit to her anymore there isn't really anything your sister can do she has every right to get out and you should respect her decisions and keep your opinions to yourself be a listener someone she can talk to not run from
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